Sober Sisters, DopeyCon & HalloQueen... Oh My!

The hottest sober events and retreats happening this month — plan your October now.

NOTE FROM THE FOUNDER’S DESK (*currently buried in tchotchkes)

Hellooooo Sober Party People,

If you thought October was all about pumpkin spice, think again — it’s about sober spice, and we’ve got plenty. This month kicks off with the Sober October Soirée and rolls straight into SF’s first-ever Sober Fest, Drag Bingo (Spooky AF Edition), DopeyCon SIX and a Sober Sisters night out in St. Louis. Feeling adventurous? There are retreats in Antigua and Machu Picchu calling your name. And for my party queens — yes, HalloQueen Dance Party is back and bigger than ever. Whether you’re here for soulful connection or wild sober nights, October’s got your vibe.

And this is only a taste. 👉 Head over to our Sober Events & Retreats Calendars for the full lineup of ways to be in community, wherever you are. 🌍Let’s make this month one to remember. Don’t see an event in a city near you? Make this your sign to create one!

— Alysse Bryson (*AB, that’s me)

Founder, The Sober Curator | Seattle 🌃 05.01.2006

PITTSBURGH, PA | OCTOBER 3

Teetotal Tastes: The North Side/Allegheny West

Join the Teetotal Initiative community for Teetotal Tastes: The North Side/Allegheny West, a delicious journey through one of Pittsburgh’s most historic and charming neighborhoods. Together, we’ll explore the North Side’s Gilded Age legacy, stroll past grand mansions and uncover stories of steel barons and local legends. Along the way, you’ll enjoy generous tastings — from comforting favorites like biscuits, fries and ice cream to globally inspired Colombian flavors. It’s an afternoon of history, flavor and community you won’t want to miss!

PASADENA, CA | OCTOBER 3

Sober October Soirée with Food, Friends & Free Drinks

Kick off Sober October with a party that proves you don’t need booze to have a good time. Burden of Proof and Plaid Circus are teaming up to bring you a night full of flavor, fun and community, completely hangover-free.

SAN FRANCISCO, CA | OCTOBER 4

SF Sober October Fest

Join Ocean Beach Café and Eye & Hand Society for SF’s first-ever Sober October Fest — a bold, high-energy celebration of music, community and alcohol-free living. Whether you’re sober, sober-curious or just here for the good vibes, this event is for you.

This free event invites guests of all backgrounds to enjoy a vibrant day of live music, non-alcoholic functional beverage tastings, local food and fun for everyone in a high-energy, zero-proof environment.

NYC, NY | OCTOBER 4

DOPEYCON SIX – Celebrating 10 years of DOPEY

DOPEYCON is a must-see evening of entertainment and conversation celebrating 10 YEARS of DOPEY, the podcast about drugs, addiction and dumb shit. Join host David Manheim and an all-star lineup of special guests for an evening of comedy, music and candid tales of addiction and recovery. Expect laughs, games, prizes and a reception catered by Katz‘s Delicatessen.

MAPLEWOOD, MO | OCTOBER 7

An Evening with Sober Sisters in STL: Shopping, Sound Bath & Mocktails

Join other women curious about drinking less for a night of connection, shopping, mocktails & a relaxing sound bath in Maplewood, St. Louis.

You’re invited to the inaugural Sober Sisters STL gathering — an evening of connection, shopping, sound and mocktails designed for women who are curious about drinking less and seeking alcohol-free ways to socialize.

TACOMA, WA | OCTOBER 9

Drag Bingo (Spooky AF Edition)

One Thursday a month, the spotlight is on Sativa the Queen, bringing sass, style and side-splitting laughs to the Sober AF stage! 🎤👑 Come play 6 fabulous rounds of Bingo filled with cheeky banter, outrageous fun and prizes that slay. Bring your friends, sip on playful zero-proof mocktails and get ready for a night that’s anything but ordinary. XO

BOSTON, MA | OCTOBER 14

Suzanne Warye In Conversation with Gill Tietz

Join us for an inspiring evening with Suzanne Warye, sobriety influencer, podcast host and founder of The Sober Mom Life Cafe, as she celebrates the release of her debut book, “The Sober Shift!” She’ll be joined in conversation by Gillian Tietz, host of the Sober Powered Podcast, for a powerful discussion about their experiences with sobriety and navigating the path to a more fulfilling life. Read for more information on Suzanne, Gillian, and “The Sober Shift.”

LOS ANGELES, CA | OCTOBER 18

Slave 2 Nothing® Foundation’s Rock 2 Freedom™ Benefit Concert

The Slave 2 Nothing Foundation is proud to present its fifth annual Rock 2 Freedom Benefit Concert featuring live performances by Papa Roach, Sitting on Saturn, and In-N-Out Burger’s Company Band, .48 Special, alongside Munky from KORN and Wes Geer from HU3M3N. Held during National Substance Abuse Prevention Month, the concert will benefit programs improving the lives of individuals and families affected by substance abuse.

BROOKLYN, NY | OCTOBER 24

Speed Dating: Sober & In Recovery

Ready to find love that supports your best life? Join fellow travelers on the recovery journey for an evening of genuine conversation, shared understanding and the possibility of beautiful new beginnings.

MACHU PICCHU | OCT 25 - NOV 2

MACHU PICCHU | Capsule Adventures

Our journey blends the culture and cuisine of Cusco with the legendary Salkantay Trail, culminating at the Incan masterpiece of Machu Picchu. Trek through shifting ecosystems like desert valleys, lush jungles, sky-high passes and sacred blue lagoons, all in a single day. Then unwind in true comfort. Think glass-ceilinged cabanas, Hobbit Houses with jacuzzis and private campsites built for glamping, not roughing it. But the real magic? The people. Sober strangers become hiking buddies. Buddies become lifelong friends. It’s a real community! Also, make sure to check out other trips from Capsule Adventures for 2026!

ANTIGUA | OCT 25 - NOV 1

Antigua 12 Sober Travel Retreat

If you’re in recovery — whether newly sober or years into your journey — and ready to reconnect with your purpose, build meaningful connections and embrace a life of confidence and joy, join us for our transformative Antigua travel retreat filled with adventure, cultural immersion and supportive community. Also, make sure to check out other retreats on their calendar!

MADISON, WI | OCTOBER 25

Happy.Sober.Free: Madison Meet-Up

Join us for an epic sober and wellness event where we will gather, connect and have fun! The day will feature yoga, live music & much more! Join us for an epic, all-day event, celebrating wellness and sobriety! Let’s come together to heal, celebrate, grow and have FUN! This event is for anyone sober, sober-curious & friends and family that support this movement. This is an all ages, all genders, all races event! All are welcome! The only requirement is to be sober the day of the event!

NORMAN, OK | OCTOBER 25

Sober AF Entertainment: Ole Miss Rebels vs. Oklahoma Sooners @ Oklahoma Memorial Stadium (Norman – OK)

SEATTLE, WA | OCTOBER 25

Sans Bar Seattle

The Final stop on the Sans Bar tour. Join us for connection and non alcoholic cocktails.

Curated Beverage Tasting – Sample an exclusive selection of non-alcoholic wines, beers and craft cocktails from our beverage sponsors. Discover bold flavors, innovative pairings and the future of alcohol-free drinking.

Book Reading and Signing — Sans Bar founder Chris Marshall will share excerpts from his debut memoir, “Faster Than Light,” an intimate and powerful story of sobriety, resilience and reinvention. Following the reading, Chris will be available to sign books and connect with guests.

Networking and Community — Engage with fellow enthusiasts, industry professionals and brand representatives while enjoying a thoughtfully crafted lineup of non-alcoholic beverages in a welcoming and vibrant atmosphere.

NYC, NY | OCTOBER 31

Gay & Sober Presents: HALLOQUEEN DANCE PARTY | MUSIC BY DJ E.N.

Mark your calendars for a night of wild revelry and liberation as we dance like there’s no tomorrow. Step into a world where fantasy and reality collide. Prepare for a pulsating, exciting night of costumed revelry with the much-anticipated return of Gay & Sober’s Halloween Party – Wild West edition. 

If you are struggling with loneliness, boredom or feeling like you can’t have fun sober, buying a ticket is the right decision. 

On Halloween weekend, join us in celebration as we unveil our new location in the heart of midtown: The Manhattan Mirage. We are transforming this loft space into a Cowboy Carter western playground where fears are left at the door. 

SUBMIT AN EVENT

Are you hosting a sober event? Whether it’s a meetup, workshop or social gathering, we want to help spread the word! The Sober Curator’s Events Calendar is the go-to resource for individuals seeking engaging, alcohol-free experiences. By submitting your event, you’ll reach a supportive community eager to connect, explore and celebrate sober living.

To submit your event, please provide us with the date, time, location and any other relevant details by completing the form or emailing us at [email protected].

To submit a sober retreat, visit our Sober Retreats Calendar. To submit a NA Tasting, visit our NA Tasting Events Calendar.

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